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snoweeI know it's petty of me or perhaps just stupid, but I really resent the fact that whenever someone posts about weight loss either on facebook, back in myspace days, or on a blog that the postee will have approximately 4 times more comments than they have for ANY OTHER POST. It just contributes to my growing irritation that everyone seems to think that other people's weight and other people's weight loss is somehow the most important damned thing in the world.
I appreciate my friends which is what makes it hard to feel this way. I appreciate their support and the fact that they comment at all, but ARGH!!!
So, I've been trying to be more of a presence on Facebook lately beyond commenting on friend's posts. I make my own posts a little more because between both FB and LJ, I just don't want to say anything anymore - yet in a weird way I want to exist.
Which is why I never mentioned I was taking steps to improve my health and which is why I KNEW I shouldn't have posted anything (over on FB) about my current struggle. I've had a billion frustrations that I've wanted to post to say what's up in my life, but I cannot stomach those "Hang in there!" and "you're doing great" comments. No. I was doing great with my life at the previous weight too, but that matters to no one; only actual lbs coming off.
There always has to be the person - could be someone you always roll your eyes at or it could be your best friend - but always the person who gives you advice on how to lose more or stick with it. Truth is, I probably know more about weight loss than people assume about a fat person. I've done a health course at the hospital, consultations with doctors, meetings through gyms and even tried to absorb information off TV. I think people assume you're fat because you don't know how calories and exercise work. Never seems to occur to them that I might just have better things to do with my time.
Proof SHOULD be the fact that I started eating 1200 calories a day and exercising 30 minutes, 7 days a week and lost NOTHING. In theory, according to the "experts" this is not possibly unless your metabolism has already adjusted to eating 1200 calories a day and doing some exercise. Yeah, over the last 20 years, guilt has made me afraid to eat and I've tried to keep healthy by doing some exercise, but never lose weight so when I get all strict about it, things still stay the same.
Sometimes I want to look at the people who criticize me and say "Maybe you eat responsibly and exercise the recommended 3 times a week to keep yourself healthy, but imagine for a moment that you have to cut your food intake in half and exercise 2-3 times as much as you do now." Tell me they wouldn't really be excited by that prospect?
I guess that's fine. To me this is just about those people who act like fucking cheerleaders. Whether they have had success on a diet or whether they never HAVE to diet, I find it irritating as hell. Yes, I admit I've congratulated others at times... isn't it the social convention? Yet, I cheer other accomplishments as well and today I'm a bit mad because almost all of the people who have cheered had absolutely no cheers for posts about anything else that I've done that deserves a pat on the back like, oh, say, writing...
...which brings up another issue. I know many of my friends here are writers. In most cases, that's how we met! Yet, don't you find that everyone right now is a writer? People who can't spell and have never told a good story at a party are suddenly wanting to be writers. I'm sure it doesn't make me any less, but it's stupid to think of all the time I've spend on the craft only to have a middle-aged lady pick up the pen last month and decide she's going to be a novelist. I think they are under the delusion that it's an easy way to make extra money. I swear to God if one of those numb skulls actually gets published, I will shoot myself (right after I write all the novels in my head because frankly, that's the only thing that keeps me going some days...)
I appreciate my friends which is what makes it hard to feel this way. I appreciate their support and the fact that they comment at all, but ARGH!!!
So, I've been trying to be more of a presence on Facebook lately beyond commenting on friend's posts. I make my own posts a little more because between both FB and LJ, I just don't want to say anything anymore - yet in a weird way I want to exist.
Which is why I never mentioned I was taking steps to improve my health and which is why I KNEW I shouldn't have posted anything (over on FB) about my current struggle. I've had a billion frustrations that I've wanted to post to say what's up in my life, but I cannot stomach those "Hang in there!" and "you're doing great" comments. No. I was doing great with my life at the previous weight too, but that matters to no one; only actual lbs coming off.
There always has to be the person - could be someone you always roll your eyes at or it could be your best friend - but always the person who gives you advice on how to lose more or stick with it. Truth is, I probably know more about weight loss than people assume about a fat person. I've done a health course at the hospital, consultations with doctors, meetings through gyms and even tried to absorb information off TV. I think people assume you're fat because you don't know how calories and exercise work. Never seems to occur to them that I might just have better things to do with my time.
Proof SHOULD be the fact that I started eating 1200 calories a day and exercising 30 minutes, 7 days a week and lost NOTHING. In theory, according to the "experts" this is not possibly unless your metabolism has already adjusted to eating 1200 calories a day and doing some exercise. Yeah, over the last 20 years, guilt has made me afraid to eat and I've tried to keep healthy by doing some exercise, but never lose weight so when I get all strict about it, things still stay the same.
Sometimes I want to look at the people who criticize me and say "Maybe you eat responsibly and exercise the recommended 3 times a week to keep yourself healthy, but imagine for a moment that you have to cut your food intake in half and exercise 2-3 times as much as you do now." Tell me they wouldn't really be excited by that prospect?
I guess that's fine. To me this is just about those people who act like fucking cheerleaders. Whether they have had success on a diet or whether they never HAVE to diet, I find it irritating as hell. Yes, I admit I've congratulated others at times... isn't it the social convention? Yet, I cheer other accomplishments as well and today I'm a bit mad because almost all of the people who have cheered had absolutely no cheers for posts about anything else that I've done that deserves a pat on the back like, oh, say, writing...
...which brings up another issue. I know many of my friends here are writers. In most cases, that's how we met! Yet, don't you find that everyone right now is a writer? People who can't spell and have never told a good story at a party are suddenly wanting to be writers. I'm sure it doesn't make me any less, but it's stupid to think of all the time I've spend on the craft only to have a middle-aged lady pick up the pen last month and decide she's going to be a novelist. I think they are under the delusion that it's an easy way to make extra money. I swear to God if one of those numb skulls actually gets published, I will shoot myself (right after I write all the novels in my head because frankly, that's the only thing that keeps me going some days...)