It's getting to be too much...

Way back in September-ish, my niece moved in. At first she came late at night and left early morning. I told her to feel free to spend a little more time if she needed and sure, her boyfriend can hang out here too. Summarize a couple of months; asking if he can spend a night here and there becomes every night except weekends becomes every night. They stay up late and he sleeps until she comes home from school - or they sleep in together until mid-afternoon.

Really, that's not what bothers me.

What bothers me is he'll be 20 2 days after my niece turns 18 (on Monday, I believe) and he still hasn't been looking for a job - at least not hard enough. He should be up at 8 with her and looking while she's at school, imo.

What also bothers me is the food and supplies. At first I told her "please drink our milk". We never go through it anyway, but I found when I bought the smaller bottle, we ran out too fast. Weird. Then I said "I can let you know if we have leftovers on occasion so that you can eat here instead of spending your money." She works at a fast food joint, though, so apparently she gets food for free.

Somehow this has become an invitation. They started with a peanut butter and jam sandwich daily. While not expensive, you have to consider the fact that I buy a large two pack at Costco once every six months. It has been only 3 since my last purchase and I have to buy more this weekend. Also, they don't use plates, they use paper towels. Wasteful and costly in the same sense that we use washable towels or plates as often as possible - the paper towels are only for certain things so I am having to replace them more often as well. Now, though, they've started eating lunchmeat sandwiches. We buy a certain amount for Scott & Jane to have three slices on each sandwich every day. They pile the lunchmeat on like the sandwiches in a commercial, then a couple splices of cheese...and eat it off a paper towel.

At one point I bought spaghettios and ramen noodles and told them it was for them hoping that they'd get the hint. Instead of eating those, they have eaten some of the more expensive soups and other things.

Last week I made Chicken Noodle Soup from scratch - including noodles. What we didn't have for dinner I told them they could have that night before I packaged up the rest for freezing. They didn't eat any so I divided them into their containers and froze them.

Two days ago I took out the last container which is big enough for two servings, planning to have it myself today. Instead I got on the computer before going into the kitchen and found the container empty on the floor.

First of all, I don't want to be hoarding food.
Second, Jessi is really too thin (and Josh isn't far behind) so I don't want to say they can't eat here.
Third, I feel bad because maybe I wasn't clear on what I was offering
but Fourth, it is costing us money. We really don't have a lot to spare, nor should we feel obligated to do so. He gets up and watches our TV which - if Scott didn't work where he does (and gets the programming free) - it would be $200 a month. They shower here, leave lights on (but we ask and they continually say they'll try not to) and use little bits of our life all over the place. This is exactly why I am hesitant about letting people live here. I would love to help out, but I'm too nice and it's too easy to become a mooch when I'm being too nice.

It's starting to be a problem.

But we want to take it up with Jessi and that causes a whole other issue I have. They are NEVER APART. Except when she's at school, they are together every second. He hangs out at her work all night. No 18 year old should be that inseparable, imo. Who is she without him? I doubt even she knows.

So, we will eventually talk to her. It's just timing... Now what am I going to eat today?